They say that opposites attract…why is that? What makes “your person” so attractive when you clearly have nothing in common with them? Your person that you are supposed to figure out how to “do life” with. Your person that you are polar opposite of. What is it about them that makes them so attractive?
So lately I’ve been pondering this “my person” situation. Why did I fall head over heals in love with Cowboy? He is the complete opposite of who I thought my “forever person” would be.
Circa 1982- my freshman year in high school. I was on a band trip with my fellow Emeralds, the high school dance team. We were living life! The only thing that mattered to us was dancing, clothes, hair and what parties we were going to attend. We had life all figured out. So on the bus we were having deep conversations about our future. Those important topics of discussion that would shape our future life forever… boys.
We were a bunch of giddy girls asking each other what kind of guy we thought we would marry.
I had a mental checklist prepared of my criteria for my “perfect person”-
ME: Italian or from Brazil. I love their accents! He has to love the beach. He has to love to travel and experience new things. He has to come from a large family, because I do. And, he has to like going to the movies.
For the sake of time, let’s just fast forward this story to when Cowboy tossed me my engagement ring and proposed-
- Is Cowboy Italian? NO
- Is Cowboy from Brazil? NO
- Does Cowboy have an accent? YES, he speaks cowboy (y’all, gettin’, etc.)
- Does Cowboy like the beach? Heck NO!
- Does Cowboy like to travel? If by traveling you mean riding in his jeep on our green acres, then the answer is YES!
- Does Cowboy come from a large family? NOPE.
- Does Cowboy like going to the movies? ONLY TO SLEEP.
Humm… it seems that I may have chosen the wrong type of guy for me. He doesn’t meet ANY of my criteria for my “perfect person”.
Oh but wait.. there is one more question..
Does Cowboy look good in his Wranglers? HECK YES! Ok, I’ll marry him 🙂